I’ve just gone through a very family gathering heavy season with Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. Plus since I’m married and my parents are remarried, I have double the events to go to sometimes. I wear some level of j-fashion to most family events with varying levels of acceptance depending on who I’m with. I know it can be hard to find the courage to wear your clothes around family especially if they don’t support you so I just wanted to share my experience with it.
It can be really hard to keep pursuing a style when you’re far from a support system. By going to swap meets you can get affordable items, at fashion walks you can get real life examples to emulate, and building relationships helps you feel like you’re not alone.
A question I get a lot on the streets or while on panels is if I dress like THIS everyday.
By THIS I think they mean colorful makeup, wig, bold clothing, a ton of accessories aka a full decora look. When I get this question I feel the pressure to answer a certain way. If I say yes, I can appear more authentic to the fact that this a fashion for me and not a costume. I can also seem completely bonkers to the wrong person haha. Saying no to some would put what I wear in a costume category and would prove that dressing this way is for the childish. I feel like there’s some sort of street cred you get from being a lifestyler in the jfashion community. If you dress hardcore in your style everyday and live in a pink house you get 10 gold stars more than if you only wear it at conventions. That’s not necessarily unwarranted because I’d LOVE a completely kawaii life so it’s inspiring to see people who can get close to that but the goal itself can be intimidating and impractical. Just because you don’t dress like this everyday doesn’t make your jfashion participation any less authentic.